Let’s talk about mothering ourselves, what that means, and why it’s important for us deep-feeling, sensitive women.

This weekend marks the fifth anniversary of my mother’s death.

I’ve shared a lot about my mother, how she was an addict, and the impact that had on me.

She’s a great inspiration for my creation of The InnerSpark Method and the work I do today, because sadly, her story, my story, aren’t unique… so many women are suffering, living half-lived lives, numbing themselves, feeling like there’s something wrong with them, and this is why I do what I do.

The truth is, we weren’t taught or shown how to live nourishing lives that honor our needs as sensitive deep feeling women

So many of us are feeling insecure, edgy, desperate, lost, overwhelmed, and just burnt out.

We don’t understand ourselves, or really even know ourselves.

We feel shame and resistance towards ourselves and are frustrated by the things we do, yet we don’t know how else to be…

We don’t know how to mother ourselves – and ultimately, that’s what’s needed.

We live in a world that is overall really lacking that motherly energy and presence.

In my work I refer to this phenomenon as Feminine Shame (FS). FS is actually the root of burnout, overthinking, exhaustion, etc. for so many deep-feeling women.

The remedy is rebuilding a foundation for our lives, coming into relationship with our bodies, emotions, mind, energy, and Nature – this is mothering ourselves.

When I hit rock bottom and made a decision nearly a decade ago to create a new way of living for myself, I had no idea what I was getting into…

There were beautiful moments of joy and relief, heart-wrenching moments of utter despair and darkness, and everything in between.

And even though my life and the ways I relate with myself are radically different from what I was shown and how I was raised, are radically different from “mainstream” culture and what’s considered “normal” these days, I wouldn’t have it any other way.

As we embrace ourselves and step into the fullness of who we truly are, life becomes sweet – our physical health improves, we find stability and trust in ourselves, we befriend our emotions, we come into a harmonious relationship with our minds, and we live in more wholesome, natural ways.

I also love being my own mother, and my own child. I love the trust and knowing that come from consistently showing up for myself – just as I am in each moment. I am the mother I most needed (and the mother my mother and her mother and her mother and her mother most needed, too).

Being sensitive, feeling so deeply… It’s hard, I know. We weren’t taught or modeled healthy ways of being or understanding ourselves, recognizing our needs, and relating with the world.

But you know what?

There’s another way to live that doesn’t involve forever being on a quest to “fix” or “heal” what is just your true Nature.

I’ve poured my heart and soul into creating a method that offers a whole new foundation to live your life upon, and I know it works.

Deep-feeling, sensitive woman, I see you, and your power is immense and necessary.

Please don’t hide. Please don’t let yourself be buried under generations of shame any longer. I’ve got you and we’ve got this!