Last updated on February 28th, 2021.
What does femininity mean to you? Have you ever been shamed for femininity? Feminine Shame is a real thing; regardless of personal gender identification or physical anatomy. Do you feel confused or embarrassed by the notion of femininity? Despite how femininity in today’s society is still shunned, misunderstood, objectified, and not celebrated, femininity is neither bad nor a weakness.
Feminine Shame exists because of shame we carry around the things about ourselves that are transient and cyclical – like our physical bodies and emotions. Shame is a painful emotion. Shame is tricky, insidious, and mysterious, yet it’s at the root of all human suffering and dis-ease. It’s responsible for the “there’s something wrong with me story” and is responsible for creating the things we dislike in our lives, our bodies, our relationships, and our health.
Shame is caused by resisting some part of ourselves and in that resistance, we live in a state of inner conflict and turmoil and are constantly ashamed of the part of ourselves we’ve been programmed to
believe is unworthy or invalid.
How Can We Begin to Unravel Feminine Shame?
• Stop Participating in Feminine Shame
• Stop Shaming Anyone For Their Spiral Principles
• Stop Celebrating Triangular Way Over Spiral Ones
Feminine Shame comes from resisting the parts of ourselves that are in flux.
Accepting and embracing your femininity can be an ongoing practice. As this more subtle, ever-fluctuating part evolves and strengthens, the ability to receive, surrender, and experience deeper joy and ease increase.
Femininity And Nature
Nature is the epitome of the spiral energy. Through aligning with Nature and seasonal flow, we’re more able to come into right relationship with all parts of ourselves – even ones shunned by popular culture.
The moon and all of her fluctuations impact us on Earth. The waxing and waning of this fluid, dynamic celestial body fill and empty us with emotion, insight, and wisdom. The moon is a direct link to our emotional body and through dancing with her cycle, we’re able to understand our own. Emotions, a signature component of the feminine, are crucial messengers and teachers.
I have always had a deep love affair with the moon.
If you’re curious about how you can embrace your own spiral energies more deeply but you’re not sure where to start, why not let the moon herself be your guide? Read more
Flower Essences, a form of energy healing, provide us with tremendous healing opportunities through working directly with our subtle energies. Through this deep shadow work, we’re able to influence change and healing in all aspects of our lives. Every plant carries a unique signature and offering. Unraveling the ways in which we’re disconnected from our feminine essence, befriending our core wound, and creating a bridge for re-connection is a beautiful journey that can be greatly facilitated with flower essences.
Living Seasonally helps us to plug back into the natural way of living; a way of living that our bodies and cellular intelligence understand. By having the external mirror of the flowing of the seasons as our guide, we remember what we’ve known all along. Read more
Nature’s gifts are waiting to support you.
Flower Essences are one of the safest and most effective ways of getting the root (no pun intended) and subtle building blocks of your experience. So if you’re curious about Flower Essences then I hope you’ll find the answers you’re looking for in this little introduction to Flower Essences I’ve put together. Learn more
This is only the beginning.
There are many more resources available for supporting your spirally reconnection, and I hope you’ll find something useful in each of them.
The Core Wound
We all have that main epicenter of challenge. That thing that is the actual root of our perceived limitations, struggles, and hardships. It’s deep, it’s subtle, it’s insidious, it’s ancestral, and it’s painful. We spend so much of our energy running from it, pacifying it, and bypassing it. We look for “fixes,” seek external validation, numb ourselves with substances, technology, drama, and more. Ultimately, these core wounds are running the show. The truth is, however, this core wound is your liberation. Through it (not around, over, under, or away from it) is your sovereignty, your purpose, and immense wisdom and grace. All the other surface-fixing things are just band aids. For so many women, the core wound is rooted in a deep story of feminine shame they’re carrying from this lifetime and from their lineage. How this uniquely shows up for you is your treasure map.
The phrase “shadow work” has been used in a wide variety of both esoteric and scientific disciplines ranging from Carl Jung’s approach to psychotherapy, to tantra, kundalini yoga, and Buddhism. As such, it’s no surprise that any time I mention my use of shadow work with my clients I get lots of questions and wide-eyed stares of skepticism and disbelief. I define Shadow Work as a process which allows us to access deep joy, purpose, and healing through our challenges and wounds. Shadow Work enables us to identify and uncover the roots of our shame to transmute it into medicine.
If you’re at all interested in holistic wellness or alternative medicine then surely you’ve heard of something called energy healing. From Reiki and Qigong in the Far East to Yoga in India and Quantum Healing in the West, the world is full of various methods of working with subtle energies. Even within these disciplines there can be significant differences among practitioners, leaving us to wonder what is energy healing anyway?
The practice of using physical plant matter in herbal medicine to enhance our well being and human experience can be seen in a variety of modalities. From Ayurveda to Chinese Medicine, Native Americans and other indigenous peoples, herbal medicine is the primary resource for healing and physical body support, and these “alternative medicine” practices have been around a lot longer than the allopathic approach of today.
Your Connection to Nature
How connected to Nature do you feel? Do you make time for Nature? Do you spend intentional moments observing and checking in with Nature? These are trick questions. Contrary to popular belief, Nature is not this separate entity that exists outside. You are Nature. Nature is you. There is no distinction. The trees, animals, and that thing you may occasionally go visit or admire is simply another iteration of your physical existence. You ARE Nature!
Nutrition must be thought of as a holistic concept that includes all we take in through the senses, which is so much more than the food we put into our mouths. Like food, these inputs can be of a high quality, supportive nature, or they can be toxic and poisonous to the system.
Plant Spirits and Plant Medicine
The first thing people tend to assume when they hear me bring up Flower Essences is that they are essential oils. The second most common thing I hear is that they are made of actual plant materials. Both assumptions are false. I wanted to lay out the main three forms of plant medicines, their differences, and their uses in this very basic outline.