Spirituality isn’t religion and many people that are religious are not actually spiritual. Spirituality is a way of viewing the world. It’s a way of thinking, feeling, and believing. It’s a way of surrendering to the greater flow, the Great Web of Life, cosmic order, Source, The Mother, whatever you like to call it. It’s a continued practice of authentically communing with your Self without dogma, egoic blocks, fears, and trauma.
What is Spiritual Trauma?
Trauma comes in many shades. It’s not a matter of if you’re experienced trauma, but when it was, the profundity of it, and how its impacts linger today.
Spiritual trauma exists extensively in our culture and it’s largely due to religion. For several thousand years, we’ve been operating out of a monotheistic paradigm that comes complete with lots of dogmatic, punitive, and disempowering systems. This paradigm is strict, often times merciless, and creates a structure wherein Source and divinity exist outside of you.
It’s also a prime source in creating and perpetuating Feminine Shame.
Frequently Asked Questions About Feminine Shame
What is Feminine Shame?
What is Feminine Shame:
InnerSpark defines Feminine Shame as an intense and deeply held resistance, aversion, resentment, and fear towards anything that is soft, transient, cyclical, fluid, passive, nurturing, intuitive, an/or emotional in nature.
It is a shame towards that which is natural in a world attempting to get us on board with what’s “normal.”
This learned disconnection leads us into a perpetual state of “not enough.” We feel wrong, bad, unworthy, fundamentally flawed just for existing. As a species, we’ve lost our taproot and have learned that it’s better to ignore the innate naturalness of our being, unless we wish to open ourselves to scrutiny, judgement, and more shame. What we’ve learned and emulated across many generations now, largely due to Puritanical programming, isn’t “natural,” although we’ve come to certainly view it as “normal.”
Living with Feminine Shame is a constant fight between natural and normal and an internalization that there’s something wrong with us. We are disconnected from our InnerSpark and continually seek cues and validation externally. This compartmentalized way of life makes everything harder and wreaks havoc on us physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually and contributes to dis-ease on a massive scale.
Why Does Feminine Shame Exist?
Why Does Feminine Shame Exist:
The root cause of feminine shame is in the programs that have taught us to shun our naturalness and to view it as wrong, bad, sinful. Since so much of our world in its natural state is meant to encompass these qualities (our physical bodies, the cycles of the Earth, the stages of life, growth, and aging, and more), it’s an unfortunate truth that we’ll all experience this feminine shame at some point our lives to varying degrees. Always striving to fit into a rigid, external measure of “normal,” willing ourselves to continue the quest when what would truly bring us back to wholeness is embracing our natural state and our Spirally essence.
Who Does Feminine Shame Impact?
Who Does Feminine Shame Impact:
Feminine Shame impacts everyone – regardless of gender or physical anatomy. It’s an abstract, permeating concept that mostly refers to shame towards that which is natural and has virtually nothing to do with gender or anatomy. While womxn do tend to experience it more directly, as a species, we’ve undoubtedly come to a place where the essence of “feminine,” or the Spiral Principle is not held with high regard. We are all impacted, as is our physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual health and the health of our planet.
How Do We Heal Feminine Shame?
How Do We Heal Feminine Shame:
We heal Feminine Shame intentionally, compassionately, gently, and lovingly. We do so by embracing what’s natural and letting go of what’s been deemed “normal.” We heal Feminine Shame through befriending the body, managing our energy system (with resources like InnerSpark’s Energy Management Tools), connecting with our emotions, aligning with Nature’s wisdom and rhythms. We do so by reconnecting with ourselves, our InnerSpark, to see the parts of ourselves riddled with shame. We do so in community where we allow ourselves to be seen and witness each other. We come back to a state of reverent balance and holistic living and thriving.
After being indoctrinated with this for several generations, the ill-effects are becoming apparent. One of the consequences is a challenging time experiencing authentic spirituality. Spirituality, as I mentioned previously, is a reflective, introspective, on-going journey. Finding Source within directly contradicts the existing religious paradigm which creates a block. Another block comes in the form of confusing religion and spirituality. With this at play, people find themselves wanting nothing to do with any of it and continually feel lost and disempowered.
Why Create Spiritual Relationship With Myself?
A key component in creating a life that feels wholly nourishing, purposeful, and provides the foundation for true holistic living, some kind of relationship with something greater than yourself must be actualized.
You are an individual, yet you are not. You are the person you think you are, yet you are not.
By and large the people we think we are simply illusions maintained and fueled by neurotic delusions. Our “small” selves can only get us so far before we must surrender to the greater forces at play. We are simultaneously the dreamers and the dreams; the creators and the creations. When we see ourselves as the avatars and little, fleeting embodiments of Source that we really are, life becomes so much more magical, fluid, and full of ease.
Creating an authentic spiritual relationship must become the cornerstone of your life in order to heal feminine shame and fully actualize your soul’s purpose and potential in this life. It’s required for healing physical dis-ease, cultivating more meaningful relationships with the people in your life, creating meaningful work that supports you and the planet, helps us make aligned choices and take the right actions for us, and so much more.
How to Be More Spiritual?
This is a very personal journey that will look differently for each person. In my work, I strive to create the space necessary for my clients to feel safe enough to openly explore the ways in which they view spirituality, how they wish for their spiritual relationship to look, and what traumas they may be carrying from religion or pseudo-spiritual backgrounds.
There’s no one answer to how to be more spiritual. A spiritual life involves living in a constant state of self-inquiry, observing oneself, and questioning everything with childlike wonder. Any and all of the resources I provide equip you with the awareness necessary to begin this beautiful quest of living in alignment with the Source of your understanding. Peruse these tools for support:
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Ready to get to the root of your burnout, ditch people-pleasing, self-sabotage, and anxiety, and discover your true, shame-free nature so you can confidently thrive in body, mind, and spirit?
Sweet Soul, it’s time to live from your InnerSpark.
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