Previously only available to clients, these truly transformational classes, including this one, are now yours to enjoy! These specially curated classes offer a deep-dive discussion into a specific topic, followed by an embodied, experiential process to anchor the material and make it your own.
It could be helpful to familiarize yourself more with Feminine Shame (if you haven’t already), and then take this class.
Frequently Asked Questions About Feminine Shame
What is Feminine Shame?
What is Feminine Shame:
Shame is an often misunderstood state that we do our best to avoid – and about which we rarely speak! However, it is a natural, necessary response that arises when we perceive our sense of safety, belonging, contentment, and/or joy to be in jeopardy. It motivates us to make change so that we may repair our sense of safety, belonging, contentment, and/or joy.
Feminine Shame, a phenomenon and concept created by InnerSpark, is when we perceive ourselves, in our innate, natural state, to be the barrier towards our sense of safety, belonging, contentment, and/or joy simply because of our existence and presence. It is an intense and deeply held resistance, aversion, resentment, and fear towards anything that is soft, transient, cyclical, fluid, passive, nurturing, intuitive, an/or emotional in nature.
It is a shame towards that which is natural in a world attempting to get us on board with what’s “normal.”
This learned disconnection leads us into a perpetual state of “not enough.” We feel wrong, bad, unworthy, fundamentally flawed just for existing. As a species, we’ve lost our taproot and have learned that it’s better to ignore the innate naturalness of our being, unless we wish to open ourselves to scrutiny, judgement, and more shame. What we’ve learned and emulated across many generations now, largely due to Puritanical programming, isn’t “natural,” although we’ve come to certainly view it as “normal.”
Living with Feminine Shame is a constant fight between natural and normal and an internalization that there’s something wrong with us. We are disconnected from our InnerSpark and continually seek cues and validation externally. This compartmentalized way of life makes everything harder and wreaks havoc on us physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually and contributes to dis-ease on a massive scale.
Why Does Feminine Shame Exist?
Why Does Feminine Shame Exist:
The root cause of feminine shame is in the programs that have taught us to shun our naturalness and to view it as wrong, bad, sinful. Since so much of our world in its natural state is meant to encompass these qualities (our physical bodies, the cycles of the Earth, the stages of life, growth, and aging, and more), it’s an unfortunate truth that we’ll all experience this feminine shame at some point our lives to varying degrees.
Always striving to fit into a rigid, external measure of “normal,” willing ourselves to continue the quest when what would truly bring us back to wholeness is embracing our natural state and our Spirally essence.
Who Does Feminine Shame Impact?
Who Does Feminine Shame Impact:
Feminine Shame impacts everyone – regardless of gender or physical anatomy. It’s an abstract, permeating concept that mostly refers to shame towards that which is natural and has virtually nothing to do with gender or anatomy.
It is when we believe our very natural existence and presence, especially those aspects that are fluid and natural, are the source of our sense of safety, belonging, contentment, and/or joy being in jeopardy.
While womxn do tend to experience it more directly, as a species, we’ve undoubtedly come to a place where the essence of “feminine,” or the Spiral Principle is not held with high regard. We are all impacted, as is our physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual health and the health of our planet.
How Do We Heal Feminine Shame?
How Do We Heal Feminine Shame:
We heal Feminine Shame intentionally, compassionately, gently, and lovingly. We do so by embracing what’s natural and letting go of what’s been deemed “normal.”
In The InnerSpark Method, a system for supporting deep-feeling, sensitive women in breaking the cycles of burnout, people-pleasing, anxiety, and constantly trying to “fix” themselves, we heal Feminine Shame through five phase approach: befriending the body, managing our energy system (with resources like InnerSpark’s Energy Management Tools) and connecting with our emotions, mastering our mind, and aligning with Nature’s wisdom and rhythms.
We do so by reconnecting with ourselves, our InnerSpark, to see the parts of ourselves riddled with shame. We do so in community where we allow ourselves to be seen and witness each other. We come back to a state of reverent balance and holistic living and thriving.
Read more on Feminine Shame here.
Working with the energies of feminine shame:
Here are some journal prompts to support your process:
What’s my earliest and/or most embarrassing and impactful memory of feeling shame? How did this influence me?
Are there places in my life where I am currently acting out of shame?
What does shame feel like in my body? What’s the sensation?
Are there areas in my system where shame desires to be felt and moved in order to move forward more freely?
How Can We Begin to Unravel Feminine Shame?
Spend some time with these in the coming weeks and honestly allow yourself to “go there.”
How do I really feel about womxn?
What messages about womxn, femininity, and change did I receive when I was a child?
How do I really feel about my female body?
Where am I holding shame and/or resentment towards the spiral or feminine aspects of myself and of existence?
Moon Cycle Intenton Settng
This moon cycle, I am dedicated to continuing to identify the ways I carry feminine shame. I will do this through:
This moon cycle, I am dedicated to honoring my spiral energies through:
This moon cycle, I am dedicated to expressing myself creatively through:
This moon cycle, I commit to practicing at least one of the ways to stop the perpetuation of feminine shame listed above and that is:
What support do I need right now?
The InnerSpark Method
The InnerSpark Method is a revolutionary, whole-person approach for deep-feeling, sensitive women that gets to the real ROOT of burnout, overthinking, people-pleasing, anxiety, and that constant sense of "there's something wrong with me."
The InnerSpark Method is a profound inward journey of self-discovery, self-healing, and self-mastery that exists to strengthen and empower sensitive, deep-feeling women to transform challenge into resource and create their own lifelong pathways towards wholeness, thriving, growth, and transformation.
This is the foundation for life we all should have received. It’s a living, breathing framework and map back home to yourself.
Sweet Soul, it’s time to live from your InnerSpark.
I’ve got you.
Explore Feminine Shame:
Feminine Shame exists because of shame we carry around the things about ourselves that are transient and cyclical – like our physical bodies and emotions.
On the journey of healing and preventing burnout, overthinking, people-pleasing, shame, and anxiety, the goal isn’t to be “calm.” This often is just bypassing and won’t do you any good in the long run… The goal is to build our capacity and resilience for being with the discomfort so we may find sustainable, lasting change […]