Our old beliefs and stories are inextricably linked to our physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual well-being.  These outdated beliefs can often create blocks in our life and, among many other things, can prevent us from committing to our health and goals.  Old emotional and mental body beliefs hold us back, manifest in the physical body as dis-ease, and create subconscious patterns for the way we interact with others, view the world, react to situations, and treat ourselves. 

The main, underlying theme of much of this junk? Feminine Shame.

Frequently Asked Questions About Feminine Shame

What is Feminine Shame?

What is Feminine Shame:
Have you ever felt out of step with the world, simply for embracing the natural ebbs and flows within yourself? At InnerSpark, we define “Feminine Shame” as a deeply ingrained resistance towards that which is cyclical, fluid, nurturing, intuitive, or emotional. It’s the uneasy feeling that arises from being cyclical, intuitive, or in tune with seasonal rhythms in a world that often values linear progress and constants. This disconnect is what distances many from their true essence, their InnerSpark, causing them to feel adrift, overwhelmed, and detached from the comforting rhythms of nature. It’s feeling ashamed of our innate, tender nature in a world that parades “normal” over “natural.”
 
Rooted in centuries-old beliefs, Feminine Shame drives that whispering ghost of “not enough.” It convinces us we’re wrong, unworthy, flawed at our very core. We’ve been conditioned to see our natural state as abnormal, which distances us from our true selves. This tug-of-war between the natural and the “normal” drains us—physically, emotionally, mentally, relationally, spiritually—leading to widespread dis-ease. It’s high time we ask: isn’t it time to bridge that gap? To finally come home to ourselves? That’s where The InnerSpark Method is your guide.

Why Does Feminine Shame Exist?

Why Does Feminine Shame Exist:
From our early years, society hands us a blueprint of how to “fit in.” This blueprint often discounts the beauty of nature’s spirals – the inherent fluctuations and cycles that we, as beings of this Earth, naturally resonate with. When these intrinsic rhythms, intuitions, and emotions are labeled as irregular or inconsistent, it creates a landscape where Feminine Shame finds fertile ground, urging us to adopt the “standard” instead of cherishing our unique spirally essence.

Who Does Feminine Shame Impact?

Who Does Feminine Shame Impact:
Feminine Shame isn’t reserved for a select few. Imagine a shroud, thin but omnipresent, covering everything and everyone. Feminine Shame is that shroud. It blankets us all, an invisible veil impacting every heart. Regardless of gender or anatomy, everyone feels its presence – the nudge to prioritize society’s “shoulds” over the nurturing call of nature. It’s the tension that arises when our natural desire for a holistic, integrative life clashes with societal expectations, leaving us yearning for authentic connections, rhythms, and a return to our true nature.

How Do We Begin to Heal Feminine Shame?

How Do We Heal Feminine Shame:
The path to healing starts with recognizing the value of our innate connection to nature’s cycles. By turning towards our own challenges and deepest desires, and embracing the rhythms that have always been a part of us, we can find grounding and resilience. It’s about harmonizing with nature’s wisdom, tapping into its rhythms for guidance, and shedding the layers that keep us from living organically and authentically. Together, as a community that sees, supports, and validates each other, we transition from feeling fragmented and out of sync to dancing in harmony with life’s beautiful, ever-changing spirals.

Brightening Your InnerSpark

How would it feel to mindfully interact with others, objectively view the world, respond (rather than react) to situations, and love yourself from an empowered place?  This is what happens when we’re able to identify, confront, and transmute these old imprints.

Be honest and examine your life.  We tend to have a few behaviors, traits, patterns, etc. about ourselves that we may not understand, particularly like, or that we feel are hindering our growth.  This may look like continuing to mindlessly eat despite the promises you make to yourself to practice mindful eating.  This may look like following through on that commitment to move your body for 30 minutes every day or meditating each morning or lovingly showing up for family members after a long day at work rather than coming home and being an ass.  The way you do one thing, is the way you do everything and these patterns show up in a variety of ways.

Until these things are addressed and shifted, their power will remain and there will be parts of us that are malnourished as our vital energy force goes to feed this parasitic form. 

Some of the ways these stories can show up:

• Seeking advice outside of yourself more than relying on your internal wisdom, effectively outsourcing your sovereignty
• Trying all the latest “fad diets” or exercise regimens
• Fierce food cravings
• Turning to substances, technology, food, sex, etc. to provide a (false) sense of nourishing yourself
• Being unable to follow through on promises made to yourself
• Pushing yourself too hard all the time
• Experiencing a chronic feeling of dissatisfaction with yourself
• Lashing out easily
• Selling yourself short
• Continuing to attract the same situations and types of people
• Finding yourself complaining about the same things repeatedly

When it comes to having difficulty in creating the sustainable health and wellness shifts you desire, it’s important to be open to doing things differently. Energy Healing can help you clear old beliefs and is especially powerful when simultaneously used while creating new habits. Creating deeper self-love and compassion, embodiment, seasonal living, and more are tools to help you begin to create change now!