Our old beliefs and stories are inextricably linked to our physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual well-being.  These outdated beliefs can often create blocks in our life and, among many other things, can prevent us from committing to our health and goals.  Old emotional and mental body beliefs hold us back, manifest in the physical body as dis-ease, and create subconscious patterns for the way we interact with others, view the world, react to situations, and treat ourselves. 

The main, underlying theme of much of this junk? Feminine Shame.

Frequently Asked Questions About Feminine Shame

What is Feminine Shame?

What is Feminine Shame:
Shame is an often misunderstood state that we do our best to avoid – and about which we rarely speak! However, it is a natural, necessary response that arises when we perceive our sense of safety, belonging, contentment, and/or joy to be in jeopardy. It motivates us to make change so that we may repair our sense of safety, belonging, contentment, and/or joy.
 
Feminine Shame, a phenomenon and concept created by InnerSpark, is when we perceive ourselves, in our innate, natural state, to be the barrier towards our sense of safety, belonging, contentment, and/or joy simply because of our existence and presence. It is an intense and deeply held resistance, aversion, resentment, and fear towards anything that is soft, transient, cyclical, fluid, passive, nurturing, intuitive, an/or emotional in nature.
 
It is a shame towards that which is natural in a world attempting to get us on board with what’s “normal.”
 
This learned disconnection leads us into a perpetual state of “not enough.” We feel wrong, bad, unworthy, fundamentally flawed just for existing. As a species, we’ve lost our taproot and have learned that it’s better to ignore the innate naturalness of our being, unless we wish to open ourselves to scrutiny, judgement, and more shame. What we’ve learned and emulated across many generations now, largely due to Puritanical programming, isn’t “natural,” although we’ve come to certainly view it as “normal.”
 
Living with Feminine Shame is a constant fight between natural and normal and an internalization that there’s something wrong with us. We are disconnected from our InnerSpark and continually seek cues and validation externally. This compartmentalized way of life makes everything harder and wreaks havoc on us physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually and contributes to dis-ease on a massive scale.

Why Does Feminine Shame Exist?

Why Does Feminine Shame Exist:
The root cause of feminine shame is in the programs that have taught us to shun our naturalness and to view it as wrong, bad, sinful. Since so much of our world in its natural state is meant to encompass these qualities (our physical bodies, the cycles of the Earth, the stages of life, growth, and aging, and more), it’s an unfortunate truth that we’ll all experience this feminine shame at some point our lives to varying degrees.
 
Always striving to fit into a rigid, external measure of “normal,” willing ourselves to continue the quest when what would truly bring us back to wholeness is embracing our natural state and our Spirally essence.

Who Does Feminine Shame Impact?

Who Does Feminine Shame Impact:
Feminine Shame impacts everyone – regardless of gender or physical anatomy. It’s an abstract, permeating concept that mostly refers to shame towards that which is natural and has virtually nothing to do with gender or anatomy.
 
It is when we believe our very natural existence and presence, especially those aspects that are fluid and natural, are the source of our sense of safety, belonging, contentment, and/or joy being in jeopardy.
 
While womxn do tend to experience it more directly, as a species, we’ve undoubtedly come to a place where the essence of “feminine,” or the Spiral Principle is not held with high regard. We are all impacted, as is our physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual health and the health of our planet.

How Do We Heal Feminine Shame?

How Do We Heal Feminine Shame:
We heal Feminine Shame intentionally, compassionately, gently, and lovingly. We do so by embracing what’s natural and letting go of what’s been deemed “normal.”
 
In The InnerSpark Method, a system for supporting deep-feeling, sensitive women in breaking the cycles of burnout, people-pleasing, anxiety, and constantly trying to “fix” themselves, we heal Feminine Shame through five phase approach: befriending the body, managing our energy system (with resources like InnerSpark’s Energy Management Tools) and connecting with our emotions, mastering our mind, and aligning with Nature’s wisdom and rhythms.
 
We do so by reconnecting with ourselves, our InnerSpark, to see the parts of ourselves riddled with shame. We do so in community where we allow ourselves to be seen and witness each other. We come back to a state of reverent balance and holistic living and thriving.

Brightening Your InnerSpark

How would it feel to mindfully interact with others, objectively view the world, respond (rather than react) to situations, and love yourself from an empowered place?  This is what happens when we’re able to identify, confront, and transmute these old imprints.

Be honest and examine your life.  We tend to have a few behaviors, traits, patterns, etc. about ourselves that we may not understand, particularly like, or that we feel are hindering our growth.  This may look like continuing to mindlessly eat despite the promises you make to yourself to practice mindful eating.  This may look like following through on that commitment to move your body for 30 minutes every day or meditating each morning or lovingly showing up for family members after a long day at work rather than coming home and being an ass.  The way you do one thing, is the way you do everything and these patterns show up in a variety of ways.

Until these things are addressed and shifted, their power will remain and there will be parts of us that are malnourished as our vital energy force goes to feed this parasitic form. 

Some of the ways these stories can show up:

• Seeking advice outside of yourself more than relying on your internal wisdom, effectively outsourcing your sovereignty
• Trying all the latest “fad diets” or exercise regimens
• Fierce food cravings
• Turning to substances, technology, food, sex, etc. to provide a (false) sense of nourishing yourself
• Being unable to follow through on promises made to yourself
• Pushing yourself too hard all the time
• Experiencing a chronic feeling of dissatisfaction with yourself
• Lashing out easily
• Selling yourself short
• Continuing to attract the same situations and types of people
• Finding yourself complaining about the same things repeatedly

When it comes to having difficulty in creating the sustainable health and wellness shifts you desire, it’s important to be open to doing things differently. Energy Healing can help you clear old beliefs and is especially powerful when simultaneously used while creating new habits. Creating deeper self-love and compassion, embodiment, seasonal living, and more are tools to help you begin to create change now!