Dis-ease is the absence of ease.
I am not a medical doctor, nor am I a “licensed healthcare provider.” While those realms certainly have their merit, and I am grateful they exist, it is obvious that the narrow focuses of Western medicine have failed, as evidenced by the persistent and mysterious “chronic disease” label.
Western Medicine fails to address and appreciate the multidimensional aspects of the humxn.
The subtle is always creating the gross. The subtle realms of your being (your emotional, mental, and spiritual aspects) are creating and re-creating your gross experiences (your physical body and other tangible, 3D aspects). You can’t just treat the gross and attempt to beat it into submission. Every facet of a person’s being, lifestyle, diet, energetic, emotional, and mental must be on the table for full healing to transpire.
The Roots of Dis-Ease
In addition to needing to understand the subtle, spiritual, emotional, mental, and energetic contributors, we must also understand what “normal” behaviors we’re partaking in that aren’t actually natural. Modern life is full of norms that are diametrically opposed to the natural needs of the humxn. By realigning with Nature’s wisdom and seasonal living, we can remember our innate naturalness and support the re-balancing of our systems. This is also at the root of Feminine Shame, which is crucial to identify, confront, and heal for us ALL.
Frequently Asked Questions About Feminine Shame
What is Feminine Shame?
What is Feminine Shame:
Shame is an often misunderstood state that we do our best to avoid – and about which we rarely speak! However, it is a natural, necessary response that arises when we perceive our sense of safety, belonging, contentment, and/or joy to be in jeopardy. It motivates us to make change so that we may repair our sense of safety, belonging, contentment, and/or joy.
Feminine Shame, a phenomenon and concept created by InnerSpark, is when we perceive ourselves, in our innate, natural state, to be the barrier towards our sense of safety, belonging, contentment, and/or joy simply because of our existence and presence. It is an intense and deeply held resistance, aversion, resentment, and fear towards anything that is soft, transient, cyclical, fluid, passive, nurturing, intuitive, an/or emotional in nature.
It is a shame towards that which is natural in a world attempting to get us on board with what’s “normal.”
This learned disconnection leads us into a perpetual state of “not enough.” We feel wrong, bad, unworthy, fundamentally flawed just for existing. As a species, we’ve lost our taproot and have learned that it’s better to ignore the innate naturalness of our being, unless we wish to open ourselves to scrutiny, judgement, and more shame. What we’ve learned and emulated across many generations now, largely due to Puritanical programming, isn’t “natural,” although we’ve come to certainly view it as “normal.”
Living with Feminine Shame is a constant fight between natural and normal and an internalization that there’s something wrong with us. We are disconnected from our InnerSpark and continually seek cues and validation externally. This compartmentalized way of life makes everything harder and wreaks havoc on us physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually and contributes to dis-ease on a massive scale.
Why Does Feminine Shame Exist?
Why Does Feminine Shame Exist:
The root cause of feminine shame is in the programs that have taught us to shun our naturalness and to view it as wrong, bad, sinful. Since so much of our world in its natural state is meant to encompass these qualities (our physical bodies, the cycles of the Earth, the stages of life, growth, and aging, and more), it’s an unfortunate truth that we’ll all experience this feminine shame at some point our lives to varying degrees.
Always striving to fit into a rigid, external measure of “normal,” willing ourselves to continue the quest when what would truly bring us back to wholeness is embracing our natural state and our Spirally essence.
Who Does Feminine Shame Impact?
Who Does Feminine Shame Impact:
Feminine Shame impacts everyone – regardless of gender or physical anatomy. It’s an abstract, permeating concept that mostly refers to shame towards that which is natural and has virtually nothing to do with gender or anatomy.
It is when we believe our very natural existence and presence, especially those aspects that are fluid and natural, are the source of our sense of safety, belonging, contentment, and/or joy being in jeopardy.
While womxn do tend to experience it more directly, as a species, we’ve undoubtedly come to a place where the essence of “feminine,” or the Spiral Principle is not held with high regard. We are all impacted, as is our physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual health and the health of our planet.
How Do We Heal Feminine Shame?
How Do We Heal Feminine Shame:
We heal Feminine Shame intentionally, compassionately, gently, and lovingly. We do so by embracing what’s natural and letting go of what’s been deemed “normal.”
In The InnerSpark Method, a system for supporting deep-feeling, sensitive women in breaking the cycles of burnout, people-pleasing, anxiety, and constantly trying to “fix” themselves, we heal Feminine Shame through five phase approach: befriending the body, managing our energy system (with resources like InnerSpark’s Energy Management Tools) and connecting with our emotions, mastering our mind, and aligning with Nature’s wisdom and rhythms.
We do so by reconnecting with ourselves, our InnerSpark, to see the parts of ourselves riddled with shame. We do so in community where we allow ourselves to be seen and witness each other. We come back to a state of reverent balance and holistic living and thriving.
The body is often times simply acting in a way it feels is most in alignment with your current needs. The subtle, root cause will continue to dictate the show regardless of how many detoxes, herbal protocols, and other things you throw at the body. Until the subtle programming that is creating the dis-eased state is addressed and shifted, the gross is going to have a very difficult time healing.
It may feel “easier” to simply fixate on the physical challenges instead of searching out the subtle causes of any chronic illness, but that won’t yield profound change. Healing Chronic Disease requires more and different ways than what we’ve been taught. It’s necessary to move beyond the physical challenge and get to the root of things with holistic healing and integrative wellness methods such as Shadow Work, assessing the Core Wound, and looking at the places shame, particularly Feminine Shame is blocking wholeness.
All dis-ease and suffering is an invitation and initiation towards a different, more awakened and aligned way of living. Dis-ease doesn’t occur in an aligned state. Dis-ease occurs because of stagnation. Chronic Dis-ease persists because the misalignment and stagnation persist. After all, ease of function is the desire of the body. Give it its required conditions on all levels and watch as its function improves.
Alternative & Complementary Modalities to Enhance Healing Chronic Disease:
Support all levels of your being – physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. Does your care plan include modalities/activities to nourish each of these realms? Are you actually enjoying your care plan? Does it feel arbitrary, obligatory, and like you have had no say or input in it?
Obviously, many of the following suggestions will overlap into other areas. For example, my yoga practice not only nourishes my physical body, it greatly integrates and supports my emotional, mental, and spiritual bodies, as well. The ideal situation is to find those kinds of things for YOU – the ones that satisfy as many realms as possible. This is how you know you’re on to something and it’s authentically serving you.
- Chiropractic Care
- Massage Therapy
- Creativity like art, singing, acting
- Shadow Work
- Engaging in spiritual study
- Reading uplifting and inspiring texts
- Community study or meditation/worship groups
I’m not suggesting anyone give up their Western Medical approach. What I am suggesting is that you understand the options available to you. Furthermore, I’m inviting you to understand the deeper nuances at play in your unique challenges. You have more power in your own healing than you’ve been led to believe. Intuitively, we know what has led to our dis-ease. I invite you to trust that, lean into that, and allow that cause to also be the medicine.
The InnerSpark Method is a revolutionary, whole-person approach that guides deep-feeling, sensitive women in identifying, uprooting, and transforming shame into a positive influence that has the potential to guide them towards wholeness, self-trust, and thriving in body, mind, and spirit.
Ready to get to the root of your burnout, ditch people-pleasing, self-sabotage, and anxiety, and discover your true, shame-free nature?
Sweet Soul, it’s time to live from your InnerSpark.
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