Sensitive, deep-feeler: Is being burnt out robbing you of intimacy? Let’s talk about it.
When deep-feelers are living in a state of frozen shame, it may look something like some of the following:
✨Overthinking mostly everything, backwards and forwards, up and down, 10 steps ahead and behind
✨Being overly aware of others’ needs and going above and beyond to meet those while putting themselves in last place on their list of priorities
✨Viewing themselves as the problem in every situation because they’re the “weird” or “different” ones that must be inconveniencing everyone and everything else
✨Believing there’s something “wrong” with them that must be “fixed” if they’re ever to have a “normal” or “healthy” life
✨Choosing to go out of their way to stay quiet, small, hidden, and unseen and not ruffle feathers by using their voice, setting their boundaries, or stating their needs
These are just some ways… Can you relate to any of these?
All of this compounds with time and distracts and exhausts many deep-feelers (who don’t have a system in place to nurture their gift). In this shame-filled state of compounding distraction and exhaustion, plus an overly taxed nervous system, intimacy goes out the window in every sense…
Whether with close friends or family, or with a beloved, a deep desire to hide + an exhausted body that’s not interested in slowing down to receive pleasure = no intimacy of any kind in a meaningful, sustainable, enriching way.
How has intimacy been impacted by your burnout? Share with me below.